Tonight's quote of the evening after finding out he has no school tomorow because of an incoming snow storm.
"I bet the teachers are really disappointed."
Laughing Out Loud!
Monday, March 13, 2017
Monday, February 27, 2017
Our little trailblazer!
Ever since Ashton was a little guy he loved to be outside! Outside, especially in the woods are his happy place! Yesterday he continued with his "trailblazing", using sticks and pruning sheers to blaze more hiking trails in the woods behind our house! What an awesome boy!
I asked him yesterday if when he grew up maybe he would have a job in the forest service.....he was quite curious!
I asked him yesterday if when he grew up maybe he would have a job in the forest service.....he was quite curious!
Monday, February 20, 2017
Daddy...the magic happy pill!
Daddy came home Saturday night and Ashton has been magically so happy since! It's really nice to see him so happy! Hope it lasts!
Sunday, February 19, 2017
February Blur
February has been one big blur! I feel like we need a do-over! Olav's sister Anne-Britt died unexpectedly and daddy had to leave for nearly 3 weeks. Talk about chaos at home! While daddy was gone, poor Ashton got the stomach bug two times. One time so badly, I thought I was going to have to go the emergency room with him. Thankfully after throwing up for 8 hours straight, he finally settled down!
Ashton continues to struggle behaviorally. He's frequently angry and moody. He can be aggressive and mean. Lately he has been in a name calling mode. Makes me so sad. We did start with a new counselor at Brooklane and she seems much more in touch with kids his age, so I am hopeful that she will be able to help us!
We has an IEP screening meeting for him this past week at school and they've agreed to do Functional Behavior Assessment on him, and create a Behavioral Intervention Plan for him. I am not sure it will work as I feel like we've done a lot of this informally, but it will be important in the long run for this information to formally documented.
We will also be going to the pediatrician this week to look at ADHD and possible medication. Still not sure how I feel about all this, but I am also aware things are not improving but seem to be snowballing. We also have an appointment with a nurse practitioner at Brooklane who deals in other medication besides ADHD, should they deem it is something else. I guess time will tell.
I'd really like to get him through this school year, start first grade with a new teacher and see if things don't improve....if not go to plan b. But I also realize that his self-esteem/self-worth is on the line as well!
Things have been rough with his sister Lily. He seems to have taken a lot of his aggression out on her. Trying to physically harm her.
Even though he continues to do nothing at school, at home he shows signs of learning. I've been informally homeschooling him at night and he is reading on an instructional C level. He apparently hates math at school, but appears to like it at home. He seems very bright to me. He has a large vocabulary and enjoys writing words and letters. He also continues to love arts and crafts. He always is wanting to do a craft!
He was playing basketball, but it was short lived as he got hit in the nose with basketball. I've been trying to get him to go back, but so far no luck. Hopefully with daddy home, he will be encouraged to try again!
He continues to go to gymnastics and awanna which he always says he doesn't want to do anymore, but once he is there he doesn't want to leave! Thankfully those are the two area where he actually experiences the most social success! And of course he LOVES his kindle!!!! It's like the great pacifier!
Ashton continues to struggle behaviorally. He's frequently angry and moody. He can be aggressive and mean. Lately he has been in a name calling mode. Makes me so sad. We did start with a new counselor at Brooklane and she seems much more in touch with kids his age, so I am hopeful that she will be able to help us!
We has an IEP screening meeting for him this past week at school and they've agreed to do Functional Behavior Assessment on him, and create a Behavioral Intervention Plan for him. I am not sure it will work as I feel like we've done a lot of this informally, but it will be important in the long run for this information to formally documented.
We will also be going to the pediatrician this week to look at ADHD and possible medication. Still not sure how I feel about all this, but I am also aware things are not improving but seem to be snowballing. We also have an appointment with a nurse practitioner at Brooklane who deals in other medication besides ADHD, should they deem it is something else. I guess time will tell.
I'd really like to get him through this school year, start first grade with a new teacher and see if things don't improve....if not go to plan b. But I also realize that his self-esteem/self-worth is on the line as well!
Things have been rough with his sister Lily. He seems to have taken a lot of his aggression out on her. Trying to physically harm her.
Even though he continues to do nothing at school, at home he shows signs of learning. I've been informally homeschooling him at night and he is reading on an instructional C level. He apparently hates math at school, but appears to like it at home. He seems very bright to me. He has a large vocabulary and enjoys writing words and letters. He also continues to love arts and crafts. He always is wanting to do a craft!
He was playing basketball, but it was short lived as he got hit in the nose with basketball. I've been trying to get him to go back, but so far no luck. Hopefully with daddy home, he will be encouraged to try again!
He continues to go to gymnastics and awanna which he always says he doesn't want to do anymore, but once he is there he doesn't want to leave! Thankfully those are the two area where he actually experiences the most social success! And of course he LOVES his kindle!!!! It's like the great pacifier!
Wednesday, January 18, 2017
Cover him in prayer day!
Today is cover Ashton in prayer day! He has been really struggling at school. We get reports home daily of a variety things he struggles with daily. Today we are lifting him up to God. Praying that God will give us clear direction as to what is best for Ashton!
Some days he loves us and says he loves us one hundred one thousand one million, the next minute he hates us and wishes we weren't in his family. In some ways it's almost comical how he can switch so rapidly between the two. Thankfully he is small and we take most of what he says with a grain of salt. However, I must admit sometimes it's hard not to imagine the future if things don't change. I am trying really hard to live in the present and not forecast into the behavior.
Today I read a scripture about how a praying mother can have an long shadow of influence on her children. That is my prayer today. That my prayers for Ashton will be heard and will be influential in his life!
I love this little guy so much! He has so many gifts! He's smart, amazingly articulate, active, and creative just to name a few!
Some days he loves us and says he loves us one hundred one thousand one million, the next minute he hates us and wishes we weren't in his family. In some ways it's almost comical how he can switch so rapidly between the two. Thankfully he is small and we take most of what he says with a grain of salt. However, I must admit sometimes it's hard not to imagine the future if things don't change. I am trying really hard to live in the present and not forecast into the behavior.
Today I read a scripture about how a praying mother can have an long shadow of influence on her children. That is my prayer today. That my prayers for Ashton will be heard and will be influential in his life!
I love this little guy so much! He has so many gifts! He's smart, amazingly articulate, active, and creative just to name a few!
Friday, December 30, 2016
So many things
First, I found information on Ashton's birthfather Ricky on facebook recently. Man does he really favor him in appearance.
I also found pictures of Ashton's newest 1/2 brother Aiden Ares Lane. Ironically he was born in April as well, around April 1st 2016. Man in some pictures they look very much alike. It's freaky.
It hard to tell if Ricky is currently parenting, it looks like he was in the beginning, but there are not updated photos of him with the child of recent. I guess time will tell.
Of course all this finding in some ways worries me. The natural part of adoption is grief and loss. The loss of the first family or feelings of rejection or abandonment. I just want to protect our little boy from all that!
It is the deepest prayer of my heart that Ashton will never feel unloved or abandoned. That he will feel minimal grief and a loss, but a sense profound of peace that God works out all things for HIS good.
We recently started counseling at Brooklane for Ashton. He had been having a very difficult time at school. Thankfully he attends a Montessori school and they have been a lot more gracious than a more traditional school might be. I fear if he was at a traditional school he would have been suspended already:(
I am hoping with some new interventions in place for after break that hopefully we'll see some progress. The hard part as a parent is we find ourselves constantly questioning ourselves, what's the best thing to do for him. Of course we only want the very best for him. I guess time will tell, but it's hard not to have all the answers all up front.
Christmas with Ashton of course was very fun! He received his favorite gift which was a little tykes indestructible remote control helicopter! He was so excited for Christmas! One of my favorite Ashtonism's from Christmas was we all got battery operated toothbrushes. He was so cute, he calls them "remote control" toothbrushes! Now he loves to brush his teeth!
Of course he continues to love to be outside! Being outside is his "happy place". So glad God put him in our family. He fits just right!
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| Rick Lane October 2016 |
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| Aiden |
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| Ashton |
It hard to tell if Ricky is currently parenting, it looks like he was in the beginning, but there are not updated photos of him with the child of recent. I guess time will tell.
Of course all this finding in some ways worries me. The natural part of adoption is grief and loss. The loss of the first family or feelings of rejection or abandonment. I just want to protect our little boy from all that!
It is the deepest prayer of my heart that Ashton will never feel unloved or abandoned. That he will feel minimal grief and a loss, but a sense profound of peace that God works out all things for HIS good.
We recently started counseling at Brooklane for Ashton. He had been having a very difficult time at school. Thankfully he attends a Montessori school and they have been a lot more gracious than a more traditional school might be. I fear if he was at a traditional school he would have been suspended already:(
I am hoping with some new interventions in place for after break that hopefully we'll see some progress. The hard part as a parent is we find ourselves constantly questioning ourselves, what's the best thing to do for him. Of course we only want the very best for him. I guess time will tell, but it's hard not to have all the answers all up front.
Christmas with Ashton of course was very fun! He received his favorite gift which was a little tykes indestructible remote control helicopter! He was so excited for Christmas! One of my favorite Ashtonism's from Christmas was we all got battery operated toothbrushes. He was so cute, he calls them "remote control" toothbrushes! Now he loves to brush his teeth!
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| Ashton and his stocking "goodies" |
Of course he continues to love to be outside! Being outside is his "happy place". So glad God put him in our family. He fits just right!
Saturday, December 17, 2016
Always an adventure
Parenting Ashton is always an adventure. This week he decided to be "that kid" at his elementary school. Complete with refusing to go to class, running and hiding in the school building with several teachers and administrators searching for him, and being mean to a peer by dumping paint all over him. Thankfully, he had good days on Thursday and Friday! Needless to say we have an appointment at Brooklane next week! Little boys!
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